Compassion is empathy on steroids
Compassion is the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes, imagine things from their perspective, and then to feel kindness for them and seek to understand of them even if what they do is harmful to us, goes against our needs and desires, is at odds with our own experience, or hurts other people. It’s more actionalble quality.
Compassion is made up of two words, ‘co’ meaning together and ‘passion’ meaning a strong feeling. And this is what compassion is. When we see someone in distress and we feel their pain as if it were our own, and strive to eliminate or lessen their pain, then this is compassion.
Compassion is a must have quality in a religion which originated in India, called Buddhism. But recently there have been cases right from molestation, rapes to animal abuse where Indians may have been potryaed as Insentive and Lacking compassion
“My message is the practice of compassion, love and kindness. These things are very useful in our daily life, and also for the whole of human society these practices can be very important.” – Dalai Lama
Compassion helps you in everyday life as well as it helps to change the world.
Compassion is much needed in the world
- Compassion helps to reduces suffering and contributes to the wellbeing of the whole, making the world a better place.
- Compassion opens your heart.
- Compassion enlarges your perspective and identity as you discover your commonality with others, realising that, just like you, they experience suffering.
- Compassion increases your happiness, fulfilment, and wellbeing.
- Compassion enables you to become better connected, improving your social, ecological, and spiritual relationships, and inspiring loyalty and commitment in your regular relationships.
- Compassion improves your health by strengthening your immune system, normalising your blood pressure, lowering your stress and depression, improving your physical recovery from illness, and even extending your life.
- Compassion enables you to understand yourself and others more as you seek to relieve suffering.
- Compassion increases the possibilities for peace and reconciliation where there is conflict.
- Compassion is contagious and spreads outwards, inspiring further acts of compassion and kindness when witnessed and experienced.
So why wait,
- Start by a morning ritual where you say things likes “I’m thankful to the world around me that, I’m alive, healthy, whole and complete” you can find some positive affirmations also online. Say them everyday
- Never do to others what you would not like them to do to you. People should put themselves in privileged category, but relate their own experience to others ‘all day every day’. Practicing this creates a ‘mature human being’.
- Be Empathetic – As I’ve mentioned in podcast empathy is means to end for compassion, so start by being empathetic
- Develop compassion for yourself “Love your neighbor as yourself” – if you cannot love yourself, you cannot love other people either. Age 8 in Nazi Germany, made list of his good qualities and affirmed that he was not what Nazis said, he would use those good qualities to build a better world. Was kind and gentle – brought help and counsel to thousands
Before embracing the world, focus on self.
o Be aware of your capacity and need for loving relationship
o Acknowledge your suffering and apply compassion to your conflicted, struggling self
o Bring your capacity for joy to surface and take conscious pleasure in things you take for granted – health, friends, family
o Look at yourself with balance – you have failings, just like everyone else, but you also have good qualities and deserve compassion, joy, and friendship
- Listen carefully, and respond to the ’emotion’ not mere words.
- Develop compassion for everyone, including those who mistreat us! It’s then when you would be almost like an enlightened person.. no matter if you believe in it or not.
Please listen to the audio recording (podcast) which is there along with this blog post!
It was done with Toshiro Cotta author of Revitallect Blog. (Click here) to check out his blog